Well, you can fight it out in court if you want to but if you fight it out in court you will be handing over the decision making to a tribunal that can make binding orders on you whether you like those orders or not. And the only remedy at that point would be if you don’t agree with the orders, would be to appeal those orders. So you’re relinquishing control of your family decisions. That’s what happens when you fight it out in court. Also, you may be paying for your attorney to fight with the other attorney about matters that you don’t need to fight about if you can try to work outside of court with the right team who provides you the right support and the right information. In the end with the collaborative approach you have more control of the outcomes and you might understand those outcomes better.
When you think about it, leaving decisions about your family and your children to a tribunal who doesn’t really know either parent would give you pause. You should think about that carefully before you relinquish that kind of control to a third party when you could just attain the same outcomes by trying to work together to reach common goals outside the court process.