Whether you have told anyone you are considering a divorce or that you are in the middle of divorce, you can expect to hear their opinion. It is guaranteed, whether it is a parent, sibling, other family member, friend, co-worker, neighbor, or someone you discuss your divorce with in in a checkout line. Their opinions will be based upon their own divorce experience or what they heard about someone else’s divorce experience. What you need to keep in mind, however, is that divorces are like snowflakes – no two are identical. Your divorce is unique. Your situation is different than anyone else’s divorce – whether the custody concerns, asset allocation or other financial matters. Your divorce may be more or less complex than someone else’s. That is to say, other people’s opinions are not likely relevant to your divorce.
However, this is not to say you should not talk to people – you definitely should have a support system. But you do not want to sabotage yourself or your divorce case by listening to people that do not truly understand what you and your family are going through. And, after your divorce, their disapproving voices may cause you unnecessary regret.
By choosing the collaborative divorce process to end your marriage, you will have the support of your attorney and the neutral coach and financial professional to help you process the information and make decisions. And you will be able to focus on your needs and those of your family. Doing so will allow you to have more clarity during the divorce and minimize regret afterward.